 July 27, 2010 Vol. II, Issue 21 Published twice a month. You are on our list because you signed up for this ezine. To change your subscription, see link at the end of this email. Sign me up for this ezine.In This IssueWelcome to the ezine for evolving women entrepreneurs. - A Note from Marcy Please add ezine@marcystahl.com to your whitelist or address book in your email program, so that you have no trouble receiving future issues! Problems viewing this in your email program? Read it online.Note from MarcyI'm a big believer that when you change yourself, you change your business. I've been changing myself this year, mostly by focusing on loving myself more. And my business is booming, as a result of that plus some other changes. What's new for me is seeing how my business changes in turn lead to personal changes. I'm gradually getting my self-care back up to par. I've struggled with getting into the gym and with eating well. This experience is showing me quite vividly how there's an ongoing balancing act between my personal and professional lives. When one shifts, so does the other. So I have to tend to both of them, not just one. I hope you are enjoying your summer, while tending to both of your lives as well. Best wishes for your success! Marcy Stahl Feature Article Move from Comparing to SucceedingComparisons do ofttime great grievance. John Lydgate Comparing ourselves to other people - we've all done it at some point. When you're comparing yourself to someone, your mental dialog may sound like: And you might add in a bit of: And I wouldn't want what she has anyway, because
I That is all one giant rationalization about why it's OK for you to stay stuck and
why you At the root of comparisons is a feeling of LACK or NOT ENOUGHNESS. The more you are secure in the knowledge that you can create whatever you need or want, the less interested you will be in what other people are doing. On the other hand, the more you believe that success is a gift that drops on some people's heads, but not yours, the more time you'll spend in comparisons. This kind of comparison just keeps you in a downward spiral - you're envying someone else AND you're justifying why you can't have that success or wouldn't want that success! Here's a process to help you move out of comparisons and the downward spiral, and into self-empowerment plus greater success! First, get in touch with the good feelings that can come from witnessing the success of others. Can you find a part of yourself that enjoys seeing others' successes? Does their success bring a smile to your face? Look for that element of pleasure within yourself. Second, see the good news message in others' success: I see that it's entirely possible for someone to achieve X. Sheila has done it, and I bet I can do it too! The success of others can provide tangible evidence that something you're considering is entirely possible. They've done it and you can too. If you aren't sure whether you can make $250K in your field - is there someone who has done that? If so, that's tangible proof that that income is possible. If you're feeling uncertain about including your spiritual or emotional work in your business - I bet there's someone who has done that too. Whatever someone else has achieved, instead of comparing yourself, just be glad for them and think to yourself: This absolutely CAN occur, and I bet I can do it too! Third, ask yourself: "I wonder how she did that?" Success leaves clues. It doesn't come out of nowhere. So look at the trail behind the success. Or better yet, ask Sheila directly! Most people are happy to mentor others. And most people love to talk about themselves. Consider asking Sheila for a short phone call or out to coffee. Ask her about her lessons learned. What did she feel has made the biggest change in her business?Fourth, ask yourself: "How can I adapt their strategy to me and my business?" Beware the temptation to blindly use exactly the same strategy, in the same way, that they did. Many entrepreneurs run into problems when they totally copy someone else or use a successful person's strategy and/or materials, WITHOUT adapting it. So when you identify some or all of the strategies someone else has used to become successful, figure out how it can work for YOU. Adapt it to your style, to your marketing strategies, to your business. Spending time in comparison (without analyzing the success!) doesn't serve you and it doesn't serve your business either. So take pleasure in others' success, believe that same success is available to you, and see what you can adapt to your business. That way, you'll grow your self-respect AND you'll build your business too. That's a win-win! CALL TO ACTIONThe next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, ask yourself the following:
If you find that you're still feeling stuck and you are ready to let go of some beliefs and actions that AREN'T creating the results you want, and then replace them with NEW beliefs and actions, then I recommend a complimentary 45-minute Success Solutions Session with me. Together, we'll explore your goals, what's getting in the way, and how to move forward. You are never under any obligation - this is my gift to you! You can email me at success@marcystahl.com and we'll easily schedule a time for your Success Solutions Session. Here's what a recent Success Solutions participant had to say about their experience. "I felt that the time that we spent discussing my business and where I am poised to go with it was worth every minute. You know what you are doing and it is obvious that you have spent many hours (probably as obsessively as I have) in developing your services/product in to a truly elegant offering. I SOOOO appreciate the investment of your time and expertise in this little mini-session. It has already
paid off, as far as starting to redirect my thought patterns and my expectations." Gwynne C. Mason, Owner © 2010 Marcy Stahl WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE? You can, as long as you include this complete description with it: Marcy Stahl motivates women entrepreneurs to move from having only a trickle of clients to an abundant full flow of more clients, more money, and more decision-making power. If you're ready to empower yourself AND boost your business, if you want to share YOUR passion with more people, schedule your free 45-minute Marcy Stahl Success Solutions Session by clicking here http://www.marcystahl.com/contact-marcy.html About MarcyMarcy Stahl is an entrepreneur whose purpose in life is helping women entrepreneurs achieve world domination, by earning more money and creating more decision-making power. Because the world will only be a better place when more women are in charge! She effectively guides her clients to move from struggle and lack, to abundance and ease, by creating effective systems and marketing strategies. She uses this same powerful success system to help direct sales consultants improve their recruiting and leadership skills. To learn more about her services, visit http://www.marcystahl.com/contact-marcy.html and sign up for your free 30-minute Marcy Stahl Success Strategy Session (and get great free resources, too!) Your FeedbackI'm always interested in your feedback on the topics in this ezine. I'd be delighted to hear from you about your experiences as they related to any of our ezine topics, your thoughts on the ezine itself, as well as topics you'd like to see in future issues. Send an email to ezine@marcystahl.com and let me know what's on your mind. I appreciate your perspective. If you know other women entrepreneurs who want to THRIVE, instead of simply surviving, please forward this newsletter to them. I respect your privacy and do not give out or sell our subscribers' names or email addresses. Copyright © 2010 Marcy Stahl |
