The 3 Ps that Keep You Struggling
and Broke
Do your business results in 2011 look a lot like 2010 (or
worse)? Do you feel like you're stuck and you haven't been
moving forward financially? If so, you're probably suffering
from the 3 Ps.
I see these 3 Ps over and over again, in my clients,
in women I meet at networking events, and to some degree
in myself.
1. Perfectionism is the first P. Boy,
do I know this one! I call myself a recovering perfectionist,
as I feel like I'll never be totally cured. Looking
at the women in my family, perfectionism may be a genetic
disorder!
Here's what perfectionism can look or feel like.
- I need to do things myself, because other people
won't do them the right way.
- I don't like to ask for help. It's
important for me to do ALL my tasks, on my own.
- When I make a mistake, I feel embarrassed or ashamed.
If other people see my mistake, then I feel REALLY ashamed.
2. Procrastination is the 2nd P. Here's
the way this can appear in your business. You want to do
something that you KNOW is important for your business but
you feel so uncomfortable that you spend a lot of time avoiding
it. When you think about this uncomfortable task, you either
switch to a different task that is comfortable (like looking
at Facebook) or you make a physical change like leaving
your desk to go do something entirely unrelated.
Typically you're procrastinating because
you have a strong fear about whatever you're avoiding.
Do you fear making phone calls? You may worry that you'll
be bothering someone or that they'll judge you or
maybe you feel like you're not an expert. You may
avoid going to networking events because you feel like you're
not an expert, or you may feel your contribution is less
valuable than other people's contributions.
3. The third P is People-pleasing.
- Do you spend so much time taking care of other people's
needs that your priorities are always last?
- Do you have a hard time figuring out what your likes
and dislikes are?
- Do you feel overwhelmed by the amount of work you have
to do and also angry at other people who are asking for
your help?
These are some of the classic signs of people-pleasing.
A small dose of people-pleasing can increase your likability,
but it can quickly get out of control. "Out of the
control" is the key phrase, because you can easily
feel like your life is out of control. You can't accomplish
what you need to get done, and other people aren't
helping you the way you want them to.
These 3 Ps keep you stuck in the same place in
your business. Until you address what's underneath
perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing, you
won't find lasting relief.
The 3 Ps have become a habit; you keep doing them over
and over.
Why keep using them when they don't build
your business? Because they help you feel safe.
When you use any of the 3Ps, you get to stay in your own
familiar comfort zone. You may feel angry or unhappy, but
you also feel safe and secure.
Unfortunately, you'll also be broke.
You cannot engage in the 3 Ps and make serious money.
You'll also be worn out, because using the
3 Ps sucks up your energy, so you're worn
out before you even try to do the important tasks for your
business's health. In effect, you're always
fighting an uphill battle to accomplish the important tasks
in your business.
CALL TO ACTION
This is a key place for you to be 100% honest with yourself.
If you see yourself in one or more of the 3 P descriptions
and you're not making enough money, then you are absolutely
suffering in your business.
Think about the last time you procrastinated on something
-- what are you NOT doing? When that task isn't
done, how much money do you lose? And how much time did
you spend avoiding work, instead of working?
If you're a perfectionist, how is your need to do
everything your way affecting your relationships with other
people? How much time is it taking for you to do everything
perfectly?
Are you taking on so much work for other people that you
make almost ZERO progress on your own to-do list? What would
change in your business if you recovered even half that
time to apply to your own needs?
If you see yourself here, I invite you to join me on my
f.ree two-part teleseries where I'll cover 6
Keys to Expand Your Money. I will be talking
about the 3 Ps and sharing some resources to solve them.
There are ways to release the 3 Ps and they all start
with recognizing the cost you pay for the 3 Ps. I'll
share more specifics on the call. Releasing my perfectionism
has made huge changes for me and I want that same benefit
(or more!) for you.
© 2011 Marcy Stahl
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