 September 23, 2010 Vol. II, Issue 25 Published twice a month. You are on our list because you signed up for this ezine. To change your subscription, see link at the end of this email. Sign me up for this ezine.In This IssueWelcome to the ezine for evolving women entrepreneurs. - A Note from Marcy Please add ezine@marcystahl.com to your whitelist or address book in your email program, so that you have no trouble receiving future issues! Problems viewing this in your email program? Read it online.Note from Marcy
I see some common themes among my clients and today's article looks at a very common issue - women who worry about whether they're being pushy or boastful. There are some intellectual reasons why this isn't true and MOST IMPORTANTLY, this belief is often a sign of a deeper issue: believing that you don't deserve to be loved. I am on a mission now and in 2011 to help women entrepreneurs love themselves more. It's key to being successful. And we often have many many behaviors and beliefs that are the opposite of self-love. So get ready for more self-love in the next several months - once you try it, you'll be hooked! And your business will grow more than ever! Best wishes for your success, Marcy Stahl
Upcoming Events9/28/2010 - 10/3/2010. I'll be in Sedona AZ with my Mastermind group, plus some time for hiking in the red rocks and shopping. 10/10/2010. Local entrepreneur Melanie Yost will be sharing her insights on money - one of my favorite topics! Registration info will follow in late Sept. 10/29/2010. Women's Entrepreneur Expo, hosted by the Community Business Partnership in Springfield VA. I'll be part of the Beginner's Launchpad panel, discussing how direct sales is one path to entrepreneurship. Feature ArticleAm I Being Too Pushy?Here's a common problem I see among my clients, and women in general. I don't want to be pushy. The clients who tell me this are so worried about it, that they have fled in entirely the opposite direction and have become invisible. Here's the problem invisibility poses for entrepreneurs: If no one knows what you offer or who you are or what you value, they can't become your clients (or your friends or trusted colleagues)! Deeper and more insidiously, when you choose to become invisible, you're negating yourself. You are not honoring who you are and how very much you have to contribute! If you're consistently making yourself invisible, you are saying: I don't think I'm worthy.And that is not a good feeling for anyone to have! As a remedy to this, here are two points to remember: 1. If you are asking yourself "Am I being too pushy?", you are NEVER going to be pushy or boastful. People who are pushy or boastful are not asking themselves that question. They are typically either oblivious to the fact that they're pushy or they're consciously using that a sales strategy. No matter the reason for their pushiness, they are not worrying about it. People who WORRY about perceived as pushy or boastful are an entirely different category of people. Instead of being oblivious to their effect on people, they're hyper-vigilant and constantly checking in with themselves about how people are responding to them. They're asking themselves questions like "Am I talking too much about myself?" or "Does my conversation partner feel like I'm pressuring them to make this sale?" And they're committed to NEVER using pushiness as a sales strategy. 2. If you worry about being perceived as pushy, you probably are living in extremes. You fear one extreme: being pushy or boastful, so you run to the other extreme, of never speaking up and becoming invisible. The sweet spot is in the middle! You are so familiar with the two extremes: one you live in and the other you worry about, that you're overlooking the WIDE MIDDLE GROUND. Successful entrepreneurs live in that middle ground. In the middle ground, you are able to speak confidently about your abilities and interests. You are comfortable stating what those are. You are comfortable hearing other people state what THEIR abilities and interests are. You recognize that this is factual information - it's not inflated and it's not inappropriate. Also in the middle ground, you are comfortable sharing the product or service you offer. You understand when it's appropriate to discuss that, and when it's not. You are attentive to the responses of your conversation partner; you recognize when they're interested and when they're not. You have a way of describing your offerings that ALLOWS and ENCOURAGES your prospects to tell you what they're thinking. That way, you always know what their reaction is, and whether they want more or not. In the middle ground, you are proudly taking ownership of your power! When you're invisible, you're abandoning all your gifts by hiding them under a basket. Is that making the world a better place? Is that supporting your personal and professional growth? NO! 3. Your core issue is likely to be whether you feel you DESERVE to have attention paid to yourself and your work. If this is you, just pause here for a second and take a deep inhale and a long exhale.... If you grab a hold of this weed - this limiting belief that you'll come across as pushy when you discuss your work - and follow it back down below the ground into its root system, you're likely to come across a related belief. One related belief is that you don't deserve the time and attention of other people. This can look like "I'm not an expert" or just be a deep feeling of unworthiness. In my opinion, at the bottom of every feeling of "I don't deserve X or Y" is the root belief "I don't deserve to be fully loved." That belief will prevent you from fully expressing your authentic self. It will also ensure that you won't fully experience the success you are capable of in your business. CALL TO ACTIONIf you recognize yourself in this article, then you are being presented with the opportunity to do some of the most meaningful work of your life - the opportunity to shift from ignoring or compensating for your underlying feelings of not-enoughness and the opportunity to GROW upwards and out of that spot. As I wrote a few weeks ago, your miracle is waiting for you on the flip side of your obstacle. If you'd like to be fully supported as you create a new higher deserve level, and also create a completely comfortable sales process for yourself, then I recommend setting up a complimentary 30-minute Success Solutions Session with me. In your Success Solutions Session, we'll discuss where you are, what goals you have, and what's getting in the way. Then we'll create next steps for you to step powerfully forward into your shining future, a future where you deserve the time and attention of others. To easily schedule a session for yourself, or to discuss whether this is a good fit for you, email success@marcystahl.com and we'll take care of it. Here's what a recent Success Solutions participant had to say about their experience. "I felt that the time that we spent discussing my business and where I am poised to go with it was worth every minute. You know what you are doing and it is obvious that you have spent many hours (probably as obsessively as I have) in developing your services/product in to a truly elegant offering. I SOOOO appreciate the investment of your time and expertise in this little mini-session. It has already
paid off, as far as starting to redirect my thought patterns and my expectations." Gwynne C. Mason, Owner © 2010 Marcy Stahl WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE? You can, as long as you include this complete description with it: Marcy Stahl motivates women entrepreneurs to move from having only a trickle of clients to an abundant full flow of more clients, more money, and more decision-making power. If you're ready to empower yourself AND boost your business, if you want to share YOUR passion with more people, schedule your free 45-minute Marcy Stahl Success Solutions Session by clicking here http://www.marcystahl.com/contact-marcy.html About MarcyMarcy Stahl is an entrepreneur whose purpose in life is helping women entrepreneurs achieve world domination, by earning more money and creating more decision-making power. Because the world will only be a better place when more women are in charge! She effectively guides her clients to move from struggle and lack, to abundance and ease, by creating effective systems and marketing strategies. She uses this same powerful success system to help direct sales consultants improve their recruiting and leadership skills. To learn more about her services, visit http://www.marcystahl.com/contact-marcy.html and sign up for your free 30-minute Marcy Stahl Success Strategy Session (and get great free resources, too!) Upcoming Events for Women Entrepreneurs
Want to achieve your dreams and goals in a more balanced, feminine, and joyful way?I’m thrilled to share with you a very special opportunity that my friend and colleague Joanna Lindenbaum has created to help you get your biggest and most important projects off the ground. Joanna is deeply committed to supporting women; she has a wisdom beyond her years. Over the years, Joanna noticed that way too many bright, creative, and passionate women haven’t been able to manifest their goals to successful and joyful reality. Instead you end up feeling the exhaustion, shame, frustration, and overwhelm that comes from not being able to bring your soul-centered project into the world. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Through her own experiences and her work with women, Joanna has put together a complimentary teleclass that will deliver to you powerful, concrete and proven tools to successfully complete your thriving and abundant goals (including your business, not-for-profit, creative pursuits, and so much more). These tools are SO simple, effective and easy-to-use that you will be putting them to work before you even get
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Class date: October 6, 2010 To register, go to: Hope you join Joanna on the call! Your FeedbackI'm always interested in your feedback on the topics in this ezine. I'd be delighted to hear from you about your experiences as they related to any of our ezine topics, your thoughts on the ezine itself, as well as topics you'd like to see in future issues. Send an email to ezine@marcystahl.com and let me know what's on your mind. I appreciate your perspective. If you know other women entrepreneurs who want to THRIVE, instead of simply surviving, please forward this newsletter to them. I respect your privacy and do not give out or sell our subscribers' names or email addresses. Copyright © 2010 Marcy Stahl |
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